Q&A: How do you deal with Christmas in blended families?
Question by momagain: How do you deal with Christmas in blended families?
Specifically, I have an 8 year old from a previous relationship (and a 2 year old from my current marriage) and her dad and his family sends her a TON of Christmas presents. How do we keep it fair between her and the other children? Do I buy my second child more from Santa? How do people deal with it so its fair to everyone?
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Answer by uknudy
It is difficult, I think you have to tell your ex that you will give her the presents over a period, not all on xmas day, so that it is fair to both.
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Ask the ones who spoil the one child to death, to please NOT do that, as it makes it very hard for you to compete with it.
We do Xmas eve for one family, Xmas DAY for the other.
As far as FAIR goes, there really is no such thing, and it is never too early to teach children that lesson. You will drive yourself broke and insane trying to be “fair”.
your daughters father has the right to buy for her if he chooses. you need to teach the younger child that her older sister has other family and will get things from them that she will not get. it is not fair, but it is not fair to the older girl to do without because you have a new relationship. the way we always handled it was for the kids to see the noncustodial family on christmas, every other christmas and when my children were home for christmas, they went to their fathers house the day [or two] before or after christmas and opened their gifts there.